To girl, from the homepage
From Hope

Hello there! Ive read your problem from the homepage, please do tag it here at love solutions next time will ya? Thanks :) Anyways lets get back to business.
The guy you like is, well, gay. There's little to do, either you understand him, and try to steer him into a bisexual state, and slowly heterosexual, which is quite hard if he makes up his mind that he wants to be gay forever. Or, you just have to let go, you have to respect the fact that he's gay, and unless you can change his way of thinking, he wont be liking you. You can try, but if it really isnt working, you have to stop. You are definitely normal, of course, he's a guy, how would you know that he's gay! Relax okay? Now just get back yourself together, unfortuantely im going to tell you to let him go, and find someone who reciprocates your love alright? Stay strong and good luck!

Hope

To :((((((((((((((
From Hope

Hello there and dont be so sad anymore! Firstly, you told me he's an EX-BF, so i was wondering why you would be even thinking about him. This guy sounds like a, sorry, jerk. Seriously, i cant stand guys who ignore girls for no reason, and especially refuse to tell the reason. Do you deserve these kind of guys? He keeps on ignoring you, even when you are so caring enough to think about him, and apologising for impulse messages, BUT, does he appreciate it? NO! HE DOESNT! He only continues to ignore you, what kind of guy is this? Since he wont even answer you, why do you still want to be with him. Maybe there are some good memories you two had before all this, but girl, HE CHANGED. He changed from someone who used to be so good to you, to someone now who refuses to acknowledge you! What bullshit of his friends saying that he still got feelings for you? Are they leading you on? They have no right to string you up and down like a puppet, its time for you to have a change.
:(((((((( , Im serious. Its time to move on, you have given him more than ENOUGH chances, but if he still "has feelings for you", he would have talked to you instead of ignoring you LONG TIME AGO! Its time to find someone who appreciates your care and concern, and reciprocates it too. Girl, i know its really tough to forget him, but think of the things you have done for him, yet what did he do? Make you feel so anguished and depressed. Start to forget him, please, you deserve a better guy. The worst thing you can EVER do is to neglect your studies.
Go now, wash your face, stay in a clear and focussed mind, close your eyes and think of all the past things that happened. Then, tell yourself to forget it, just goddamn forget it. Dont get hung up and depressed for this ONE guy, he's just ruinning you. Stay positive, and im sure one day you will find the real ONE who treats you just like you treat him, with love.

Hope


To *ae
From Hope

Hi there. Im just going to be straightforward about this. When he asked you whether you liked him, he's not doing a confession, he was asking you a question. The guy doesnt seem interested in you, from what you tagged. Yes you are interested, but he even said sorry for leading you on, thats a sure NO NO. Some guys are a little withdrawn when it comes to relationships, he's probably ignoring you cos he doesnt want you to get the wrong idea and he probably wants you to give up. If he's a really good guy, you can maybe tell him you really are interested in being more than friends, but of course do give him the space and time he needs to digest the information.However, if he states veyr clearly that he doesnt like you, then perhaps you should try to forget this guy, cos he's not reciprocating. Dont waste your time on him, cos there's people out there waiting for you to be friends and more with! Good luck! (:

Hope

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To Affections
From Hope

Hello there! When i read your problem, there was only one thing in my mind, break up for goodness sake. Either your gf is toying with you, or she's attention deprived, or just purely insane. Why are you with someone who likes to make you jealous so you will "care" MORE for her, thats so mean! Being in a relationship is that both parties must be happy, so you tell me what this is then? Broke up and managed to patch everytime? This is NOT a healthy relationship, ON and OFF. In the end, it only results in more confusion and hurt as time goes by. End it, even though you both having feelings for each other, but are tired of this whole thing right? Just end it. This will just go on and on, even though there are feelings. Im not being heartless, but you two have to think about it. Are you happy? Is she happy? Think about it.

To J*
From Hope

Hi there. We had solved a problem somewhat similar to you, so if you will scroll down and see this post "TO :( FROM HOPE", its about the same advice, and do read through it, if you still need any help, tag again yeah? Meanwhile, make more eye contact to show that you are interested, after that make the first move. Its the 21st century, girls can do the first move instead of guys. I think guys like confident girls too! Good luck! (:

To OXM
From Hope

Hi there. It seems that a passerby has actually answered your questions yeah? But i'll still properly address your problem. Firstly, you are not a despo. Never degrade yourself to that extent, because i've seen real despos, yeah. Also, you have rights to feel upset too. I want to stress that this is NOT a relationship you and your boyfriend is having. Its not fair that he doesnt want to meet you up, what kind of "boyfriend" is this? If he really loves you, he will go against the odds to meet you. You really have to meet up with him, seeing your tags that you really do love him, and that he also loves you, judging by what you tagged. If you two dont ever meet up, im sorry, i have to say that this relationship is going nowhere. Meanwhile, about your band, Ive always believed that if something makes you unhappy, then you shouldnt be doing it. If band really makes you stressed, upset, depressed etc, im glad that you quit it. Think about the whole relationship and do the thing thats right. Good luck.

TO CONFUSED.

FROM HOPE.



Firstly, im so sorry that we didnt reply to you so for long! We apologise! Alright lets get back to business (:

Your problem is really tough, cos you two have made a promise to trust each other and tell each other things, yet your gf doesnt tell you anything. Apparently you two are both jealous of each other when the other partner is with the opposite gender. Hope here applauds you for making the right decision to avoid girls, cos this is definitely being loyal to your gf. However, your gf seems to be not doing her part in this relationship. In fact she still goes out with breakfast with another guy! If she can already do that, it wont be a surprise that she has more dates with other guys. Reason to her that you have definitely done your part and that she is not fufilling hers. In a relationship, trust is essential, and the fact that you cant trust her shows that there's something wrong in this relationship. As much as you love her, this cant carry on! If you are willing to avoid girls for her sake, she should be able to avoid boys for you. This is definitely unfair and you should think twice about the relationship. What is the point of being together when one of the couple is not even happy at all? You better have a real talk with her. And tell her its getting on your nerves that she's not doing her part. Do what you have to do if she still doesnt listen to you. Good luck.

Hope

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To going MAD
From Hope

Dear, I think having a boyfriend but still liking someone else is a total NO NO. That, in fact, is called emotional cheating, and its seriously unfair to your boyfriend.
Liking two people at one time, whether its right or wrong, depends. If you are DEFINITELY single, then there is no wrong having two crushes. But once you accepted someone's love for you, you should forget about the other crush and concentrate on your boyfriend instead of being distracted by the old crush. If you find yourself wavering, you should think about it, is your current boyfriend a mere crush, ir is it true love. Cos true love is dedicating oneself to it, and not being indecisive about two other boys. Think about it.

To Love bug
From Hope

If the girl is one who spreads nasty rumours, i suggest that you better not tell her about the mutual emotions between you and the boy, but carry on SECRETLY with the new relationship. If she is one who spreads malicious rumours, why are we even bothering about her as she doesnt even bother about anyone's feelings when she spreads rumours. However having a secret relationship is risky as the consequences of being caught aint that good. Just asking, do your usual gang of friends get easily influenced by this nasty rumour girl, or dont bother about her rumours? Good luck nonetheless.

To ,
From Hope

I see that you are unhappy with our replies? Who are you btw? Also, the term of moving on, we are not asking you to do it immediately, but gradually. Its impossible if you set your mind to it, cos you have to remember, you dont want to ruin your life just because of one lost love.

TO SAD&CONFUSED
FROM HOPE

Hello there! Firstly oh my god THANK YOU for your tip! I hate those impersonators! Alright lets get back to business.
Firstly, you said you and your gf is drifting apart? But Hope here believes that communication is key to a good relationship! Do you and your gf sms/msn a lot? Since you two cant meet each other frequently, the next thing you should do is to at least chat to update each other about your lives and emotions! I take it that if you two are drifting apart, it means that you havent been talking much with her eh? Do work on communication, its a key aspect of relationships. Alright?

Also you talked about her going out with friends more than with you. Being a girl, Im guessing that she doesnt want to sacrifice her FRIEND SOCIAL LIFE for the LOVE SOCIAL LIFE. In relationships, there would be sacrifices, and its not fair to you if she only is to work on the friendships and not the relationship. What was the point of accepting your love if she doesnt want to work on it! My advice is that you tell her whats going on and how you feel. Suggest ways to not let her neglect both friends and boyfriend. Being in a relationship, she has to know how to balance her friends and love or the two parties might end up being neglected, she has to understand this. Talk to your girlfriend, but do remember not to press her too much, or else it would seem really desperate and needy, which is a NO NO. However if all else fails, look into the relationship, and decide, is this the relationship you want? Think about it.

Hope